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Getting Life in Shape with Bruce Lee

Posted in Career and Money, Charisma and Dating on February 20, 2011 by asianalphaman

Bruce Lee is my idol all my life. There aren’t  still many Asian men nowadays in America who can exude the level of masculinity like he was.  I found myself often looking back to him for inspiration when I felt down or stressed-out.  Recently, I turned to him again for some guidance on how to lead a better life.  I came across this article by Henrik Edberg who had some good insights on the application of Bruce’s philosophy. I think it’s a good idea to share with every one.  For the complete article, click here.

The author points out Bruce’s 7 fundamental concepts that resonate very much with me. In response, I tried to sort out my thoughts by following the author’s approach.

1. “As you think, so shall you become.” – What are you really thinking about today?

This concept brings out a very conscious reminder to me that what I want to become for getting into the game in the first place. The man that I’ve always wanted to become. Am I living congruency to my thought? Is it in line with my reality? How am I getting back on track to work on myself?

2. “If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you’ll never get it done.” – Simplify.

This is like another punch to me. Everything that the author said about this concept hit on my spine. He tells me to focus. Gotta get yourself out there. Just do it.

3. “To know oneself is to study oneself in action with another person.”- Learn about yourself in interactions.

I was like…omg…this is exactly what I’m trying to do in order to improve my game with women. It’s hard sometime to notice yourself consciously during the interaction. Oftertime, my mind just can’t rev up fast enough to tune in to others. I often try to play back in my mind to study what I could adjust better next time.

4. “Take no thought of who is right or wrong or who is better than. Be not for or against.” – Do not divide.

Actually I find this one pretty hard to apply in life, where you have to fight your ego logically because the ego likes to divide from others. I’ve improved over the years to manage to put my ego aside to certain extent. It’s the only way to learn from others through conscious observing.

5. “I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.” – Avoid a dependency on validation from others.

Wow, this is so true. We learn that women respond to such kind of men. The guys who’re naturally good with women don’t have this problem. I wonder if that’s because they have plenty experience so that they don’t need it anymore. I also wonder that how a guy who never had validations from women can become self-validated. I think ‘experience’ is the dirty secret of the naturals.

6. “To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities.” – Be proactive.

Bruce and Henrik are both absolutely right on the point. The only way to succeed is to look for it.

7. “Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.” – Be you.

I don’t know how much this concept affects me. Everything I do is toward this goal, but it’s just so hard to do without conscious effort and proactive self-guidance. This whole game thing is designed to simulate the naturals. Hopefully, we’ll be one of them later. Like others questioned Bruce before, how can I find my own way without a way? How can I get there? I guess everything gotta start somewhere.

Let me know what’s your take. Feedback are always welcomed.

You Gotta Have A Goal

Posted in Career and Money on August 9, 2010 by asianalphaman

I recently learned a new term “goal power” from Ken McElroy’s book on Real Estate Investing. It says that having a goal makes us powerful. That’s the power of motivation and action. Also it keeps us in line with our reality providing us milestones to follow.

I totally agree with Ken that goal setting requires us to be honest with ourselves and reflect on what we really want in life. This takes me years to figure out; nevertheless it’s so necessary.

Some people are lucky to be installed with the right attitudes and mindsets from whatever environmental and interpersonal influences they may have in their upbringings. Over the years, they develop awareness and skills then later on those become their habits and instincts, which seem so natural in eyes of others. That’s when we say that that’s just the way he is.

This is cause and effect relationship; however, every different combination of experience is different to every different individual. For example, what makes one man more assured of himself than others when it comes to the areas of women and money? Why are those two subjects? Simply because both of these are very emotional subjects. It’s not like you can read books or take classes to master them, but we need to master them for our own good sake in life. You may tell me that this is not what happiness is all about. Yes, I agree that there’s more to life, but I’d respond that they both are like major pillars for happiness in human existence . We can’t simply ignore our impulses throughout life. We, as men, can choose to get on top of those impulses or let them control us for the rest of our life. In other words, it all comes down to men with high level of EQs. Why and how do some men have higher EQs than other men?

What happen to those men that don’t naturally have IT? I suggest that we go out and get IT. Thankfully, there are many resources available to help nowadays. Time won’t help you improve; in effect, it only reinforces bad habits. Only actions do. We need real world reference experience. How else can you tell that hot girl not like you till you give it your best shot? How else can you separate good and bad business deals till you have done them in the past? Hopefully, not the bad ones!

Self-teaching takes discipline and conscious efforts, i.e., setting goals. The goals should be SMART, which each letter stands for as follows:

  • “S” specific
  • “M” measurable
  • “A” accountable
  • “R” realistic
  • “T” time activated

Once we have our clear, measurable goal defined, we’ll have to lay out the path you plan to take to achieve it.

A goal not written down is a wish. So, here’s a list of my goals:

Behavioral Change to DO List

  • Taking the same route to work every day
  • Watching random Youtube videos
  • Controlling body over masturbation
  • More importantly, stop being a spectator and enjoying the glory of others.

Business to DO List

  • Master Adobe Photoshop and MS office for project management
  • Pass the broker exam
  • Implement Ken McElroy’s real estate strategies
  • Find my team
  • Evaluate the market
  • Find a great property
  • Assign a valuation to the property
  • Establish a property plan
  • Develop a budget
  • Manage the property

Next, keeping the focus till meeting the goal. Consistence is the key here. Just like Ken said, “Focus equals discipline.”

Focus on the goal. Don't get caught focusing.

Make yourself accountable to somebody is also a good way to push yourself. For example, I pledge to give my friend $10 every time if I don’t go talk to the girl I find attractive when we go out. I mean, do whatever you gotta do to push yourself in direction of your goals.

Our goal may evolve over time, so we have to keep them updated. Goal setting is not an option; it is a requirement for success.

Career Change – Taking Control of Your Own Life

Posted in Career and Money on May 17, 2010 by asianalphaman

A good friend of mine once said “Do what scares and excites you the most.” I totally agree with him on this one. I’ve been so used to my old self that I began to become a dreamer. Dream without action is destructive. I’ll never be truly happy if I don’t follow my heart.

A few months ago, I made up my mind that I need to get this part of my life in direction, which is my career. A man needs an ambition. He may not have many external things going on for him, but he can’t afford not to have desire for greatness. I need to get this straight. This self-transformation has driven me so far that I switched even my career to pursue something entirely different from I’ve learned most of my life – that is, real estate.

I guess that I still do have some Robert Kiyosaki’s spirit. Facing an unclear future, this is a bold move. Now I’m working in property management. My goal is that I can own and manage my properties in the near future.

Brian Tracy once said that there’s something powerful in people’s willingness to make a move in faith with no guarantee of success in the direction of your goal, which I did. Real estate is essentially a people’s business, which requires a lot of communication and negotiation to get work done. This is way outside of my comfort zone which is also why I want to push myself out of it. Learning to deal with people is one of the critical success factors. I believe that we can get good at it by making it as one of your life-long goals.