The black girl finally gets her man!

Posted in For Fun on October 14, 2010 by asianalphaman

Asian Man & Black Woman: Gabrielle Union and John Cho

American media likes to de-sexualize Asian men. Finally, there comes a breath of fresh air.

They’re both my favorite actors in America. They’re smoking hot together.

Scenes from the TV series ‘Flash Forward.’ Check it out!

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Asian Dude got mad game!

Posted in For Fun on September 29, 2010 by asianalphaman

If you got talent, you should let it shine like Tim!

Keep it more coming! Asian Pride!

You Gotta Have A Goal

Posted in Career and Money on August 9, 2010 by asianalphaman

I recently learned a new term “goal power” from Ken McElroy’s book on Real Estate Investing. It says that having a goal makes us powerful. That’s the power of motivation and action. Also it keeps us in line with our reality providing us milestones to follow.

I totally agree with Ken that goal setting requires us to be honest with ourselves and reflect on what we really want in life. This takes me years to figure out; nevertheless it’s so necessary.

Some people are lucky to be installed with the right attitudes and mindsets from whatever environmental and interpersonal influences they may have in their upbringings. Over the years, they develop awareness and skills then later on those become their habits and instincts, which seem so natural in eyes of others. That’s when we say that that’s just the way he is.

This is cause and effect relationship; however, every different combination of experience is different to every different individual. For example, what makes one man more assured of himself than others when it comes to the areas of women and money? Why are those two subjects? Simply because both of these are very emotional subjects. It’s not like you can read books or take classes to master them, but we need to master them for our own good sake in life. You may tell me that this is not what happiness is all about. Yes, I agree that there’s more to life, but I’d respond that they both are like major pillars for happiness in human existence . We can’t simply ignore our impulses throughout life. We, as men, can choose to get on top of those impulses or let them control us for the rest of our life. In other words, it all comes down to men with high level of EQs. Why and how do some men have higher EQs than other men?

What happen to those men that don’t naturally have IT? I suggest that we go out and get IT. Thankfully, there are many resources available to help nowadays. Time won’t help you improve; in effect, it only reinforces bad habits. Only actions do. We need real world reference experience. How else can you tell that hot girl not like you till you give it your best shot? How else can you separate good and bad business deals till you have done them in the past? Hopefully, not the bad ones!

Self-teaching takes discipline and conscious efforts, i.e., setting goals. The goals should be SMART, which each letter stands for as follows:

  • “S” specific
  • “M” measurable
  • “A” accountable
  • “R” realistic
  • “T” time activated

Once we have our clear, measurable goal defined, we’ll have to lay out the path you plan to take to achieve it.

A goal not written down is a wish. So, here’s a list of my goals:

Behavioral Change to DO List

  • Taking the same route to work every day
  • Watching random Youtube videos
  • Controlling body over masturbation
  • More importantly, stop being a spectator and enjoying the glory of others.

Business to DO List

  • Master Adobe Photoshop and MS office for project management
  • Pass the broker exam
  • Implement Ken McElroy’s real estate strategies
  • Find my team
  • Evaluate the market
  • Find a great property
  • Assign a valuation to the property
  • Establish a property plan
  • Develop a budget
  • Manage the property

Next, keeping the focus till meeting the goal. Consistence is the key here. Just like Ken said, “Focus equals discipline.”

Focus on the goal. Don't get caught focusing.

Make yourself accountable to somebody is also a good way to push yourself. For example, I pledge to give my friend $10 every time if I don’t go talk to the girl I find attractive when we go out. I mean, do whatever you gotta do to push yourself in direction of your goals.

Our goal may evolve over time, so we have to keep them updated. Goal setting is not an option; it is a requirement for success.

Career Change – Taking Control of Your Own Life

Posted in Career and Money on May 17, 2010 by asianalphaman

A good friend of mine once said “Do what scares and excites you the most.” I totally agree with him on this one. I’ve been so used to my old self that I began to become a dreamer. Dream without action is destructive. I’ll never be truly happy if I don’t follow my heart.

A few months ago, I made up my mind that I need to get this part of my life in direction, which is my career. A man needs an ambition. He may not have many external things going on for him, but he can’t afford not to have desire for greatness. I need to get this straight. This self-transformation has driven me so far that I switched even my career to pursue something entirely different from I’ve learned most of my life – that is, real estate.

I guess that I still do have some Robert Kiyosaki’s spirit. Facing an unclear future, this is a bold move. Now I’m working in property management. My goal is that I can own and manage my properties in the near future.

Brian Tracy once said that there’s something powerful in people’s willingness to make a move in faith with no guarantee of success in the direction of your goal, which I did. Real estate is essentially a people’s business, which requires a lot of communication and negotiation to get work done. This is way outside of my comfort zone which is also why I want to push myself out of it. Learning to deal with people is one of the critical success factors. I believe that we can get good at it by making it as one of your life-long goals.

A Voice of True Asian Alpha Man

Posted in Charisma and Dating with tags , , on March 29, 2010 by asianalphaman

Speaking of Asian alpha men, one just can’t mention about him. Yes, that’s the legendary Bruce Lee.

Looking at the way he presents himself in front of people just made me in awe this time.  I know he’s a very smart guy and have a huge respect for him; however, I simply didn’t pay attention to him from a charismatic angle before.  What defines charisma of a person. Wikipedia defines one who is charismatic is said to be capable of using their personal being, rather than just speech or logic alone, to interface with other human beings in a personal and direct manner, and effectively communicate an argument or concept to them.

Although he has an accent, his vocal control is impeccable in such a way that people naturally are drawn into him, let alone the content of what he says.  The confidence that he exudes is just aspiring. This is passion. There’s no need to define what it is.  People can feel it.  His body language sub-communicates an authentic and self-assured man with vision and direction in life.  How can he not attract people into his life?

“A recent poll at Quizilla revealed that 35% of women and even 16% of men admitted that Asian icon Bruce Lee is sexy…Bruce Lee was sexy, because he was an alpha male.  He was fearless, physically fit, ultra-disciplined and could hold some killer eye contact with the best of them.  You could be even sexier than Bruce Lee and redefine the modern sex symbol for your local Asian community.”  For more info on the article, please check Is Bruce Lee Sexy? Sex and the Asian Community In America

Here’s an article on some quick tips to bump up one’s charisma that anyone can use immediately – 8 Keys to Instant Charisma

Being Likable

Posted in Charisma and Dating with tags , on March 25, 2010 by asianalphaman

The Charismatic Man What separates guys that are good with women from guys that are not are the way they think and do things.  Having a good look certainly helps out a lot, but it only take you so far with women.  For someone just starting out in the similar quest of mine, I think that the first step is to learn to get better with people in general.  I believe that you can learn to be likable.  This is different from kissing people’s ass.  Look around you, how guys that are good with women live, start to think like them and start doing the things they do. You don’t have to be them and you’ll never be.  You’ll have to develop your own style.  “Take what’s useful to you, and discard what’s not,” said Bruce Lee, one of my all-time role models.  The more you’re liked, the happier your life is.  I dug through my hard drive and found an article on the topic.  It’s a very good summary that addresses characteristics of likable people.  I do notice that most of these characteristics that my friends who’re good with people have, and some of these that I didn’t exercise much in the interaction with people before.  You can make them as part of personality traits by conscious efforts.  Without any changes, I re-post the article here.

13 Characteristics of Likable People by Sebastian Drake

1. Smiling – People who are at ease, confident, and happy tend to smile, and that smile puts people at ease. Smiling shows that you’re pleased to see someone which can be really flattering. If you want to change one thing to come across more social, smile a big smile. Sometimes you will not feel in the mood to smile – however, if you choose to smile anyway you’ll still get the great results.

2. Eye contact – Maintaining eye contact when you talk to someone draws them deep into conversation with you – the rest of the world slows down, and you both become quite important to each other. It shows a calm confidence in what they are saying and it makes them even more engaging, almost hypnotic. A quick tip: Right eye to right eye. Look from your right eye to the right eye of the person you’re talking to. This strikes a great balance between good eye contact and not staring.

3. Touch – You’ll consistently see magnetic people reach out and touch others. Touching shows emotion and affection and brings you closer to other people. Humans crave physical contact with others, and more emotion and affection can be expressed through touch than any number of words ever could. Next time someone does or says something you really like, give them a high five, some “pound”, a playful punch on the arm or a big hug.

4. Not talking about yourself – Likable people typically are more curious to get to know other people and don’t talk about themselves as much. Likable people are always looking to find out more about the other person, what they are doing, and what interests them the most. Most people don’t feel heard – likable people know this, and encourage others to talk about what they really enjoy.

5. Not talking too much – Closely related to the above point.Likable people and high status people do not talk too much. Instead they encourage others to talk and to open up. People love to talk about their experiences and cool things they’ve done – when you become more curious and encourage them to speak more, they’ll actually like you more. If you catch yourself rambling for a while, an easy way to adjust is to say, “But that’s enough about me – what about you?”

6. Empathy – Making people feel understood, and striving to truly understand them is powerful. Everyone wants to be understood. People want to know that they are not alone in the world. If you can reach out to understand another person, you’ll instantly form a great connection with them. Next time someone tells you something heavy that you could have a long discussion on, instead try saying just “I understand.” You’ll be amazed at how uplifting it can make other people feel.

7. Not trying to impress – Somewhat accomplished people want everyone to know about the accomplishments they’ve made. Really amazing people are much more humble and low key about what they’ve done. The most impressive people never actively try to impress people. The result is that a man trying to impress communicates that he’s not impressive.

8. Showing praise and appreciation – Whenever you see anything you like in another person, let them Down To Earth know. If people aren’t used to you opening up, praising, and appreciating constantly, you might get a funny reaction at first. Once you’ve established that you’re constantly on the lookout for great things in others, people get used to feeling empowered around you. When you do mention something you really like, keep it casual. No big deal, no long talk. Just, “Hey, I really appreciate that you did that.” “I thought that was really cool how you did that.”

9. Never criticizing, ever, for any reason – Likable people never criticize others. People universally hate criticism, and hate people that criticize them. Likable people always start off with genuine praise and appreciation before trying to give constructive feedback, and will only give this feedback rarely (because likable people understand that praise is a much better way to help people change than even constructive feedback, and criticizing is almost always useless).

10. Not trying to fix other peoples’ problems – When someone tells you they have a problem, but doesn’t explicitly ask for your help, that means they do not want you to tell them how to solve it. They want to feel understood, cared about, and empowered. Over 90% of the time, people know the solutions to their own problems. If someone brings a minor problem to you, try listening, nodding, letting them know you understand, and you’re with them. Tell them you believe in them and you think they’ll sort it out. If they ask what you’d do, maybe make a quick suggestion but don’t drive the point really hard. As crazy as it sounds, most people do not tell others about their problems in order to get solutions; they want understanding, empathy, and reassurance. People are very strong and quite good at solving their own problems when believed in.

11. Eliminate negativity – Never mentioning anything you don’t like. Especially never being down on culture-wide things outside of your direct control: So, not complaining about the government, pop culture, fashions you think are silly, activist groups you disagree with, and so on. Being positive is really good. Not talking about things you dislike is even more important.

12. Never complain – When people complain, others feel slightly less inclined to be around them. It brings people down. If you don’t like something, you have two choices: Take action to fix it, or accept that it’s there. When you realize that, there’s no reason to complain.

13. Never impose weakness on others – Everyone feels down from time to time. The most charismatic people never “impose” that down feeling on others; instead, they’re a fort of strength for people around them. The more you stay composed, and refrain from showing being phased or flustered, the more you gain control over your life. People start to respect you more, and they feel they can rely on you.

Introduction

Posted in Progress Journal on March 19, 2010 by asianalphaman

Hi my dear Asian brothers,

I’m an Asian American man. Being grown up in China and then living in US till now, I have the privilege of seeing things with both eastern and western perspectives. There are good and bad things in both cultures. I’m still trying to bring both sides to a good balance so that I can become the Best Self in terms of health, wealth, and love.

I finally decided to put this quest of mine down in words. Hopefully, it’ll shed some light on my Asian brothers who’re struggling to make the first move. The purpose of this website is to help you lead a more successful and happy life. Taking myself for example, I’m used to suck at many aspects such as academia, physique, mentality, and women. I had absolutely no game with women. I fitted right into the typical Asian guy that American media likes to portray – nerdy, social awkward, asexual, beta, and on top of that, language barrier. Life is all about choices. I came to the time of my life that I must choose to refuse all that and quit worrying about what people may think of me. I can choose to stand in the corner sipping beer or go over to talk to that cute girl surrounding by people, and I’ll choose the latter. Although it might not lead to anything, it’s always a lot of fun to make another new friend. In fact, you’d never know. It just never occurred to me that attracting women could be a set of learn-able skills just like learning to speak English. Women is a reflection of how I lead my life as a man.

If life is easy, there’s nothing to remember when you get old. Only there’s bitterness for sweetness, tear as well as smile.

Let’s all make it our goal to become an Asian Alpha man and show America what we are really about.

Play on. AAM.